Fictitious Ladies

Consider that the author of Proverbs, who presumably knew something about women, saw fit to write: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” If it was so hard for a king with 700 wives and concubines to discover one of noble character, it should come as no surprise that many young men, (and embittered older men), should see high-caliber women as being scarce to the point of utter myth.

Furthermore, it can be difficult for a man to find a woman who presents just the right mix of darkness and light to make a suitable partner for him. Few of us who have inhabited this fallen world and sampled its delectable but poisoned fruit would find an apt mate in the angelic near-saints that one occasionally meets being produced by Southern Bible colleges, while at the same time, a jaded girl with two abortions, 37 former lovers and divorced parents in her past is unlikely to hold much appeal for the man seeking a wife who will also be the mother of his children.

I knew Space Bunny was the right girl for me when she asked me why I seemed to be a little down one evening during our engagement and I told her that it was hard to accept that I was going to have to be good, when I had been so good at being bad. The fact that my sense of loss not only did not offend her, but saddened her, too, gave me the confidence to know that I had chosen the right girl for me. Her character is as honeyed as her hair, but has been sufficiently seasoned by events to prevent her inherent sweetness from cloying too much.

Now, I never recommend missionary dating, or dating someone in the hopes that they will change in any major way. But I have to admit that there is one exception to this rule, which is the woman who has never seriously considered Christianity, (or whatever is of supreme importance to you), and has a genuinely open mind about it.

My brother, who is exceptionally good-looking and occasionally an idiot of like proportions, had been lamenting that he simply could not find the kind of girl for whom he was searching. The women he met at church failed to share his interest in clothes, style and other ephemera, while those he met in the nightclubs were attractive to him but both spiritually dead and morally challenged.

My suggestion was that he try to find the middle ground and look for a girl in a nightclub who was willing to go to church with him. By this, I meant that if he went on a date with a girl he met out and about, he might casually introduce the concept of his regular church attendance and see what her reaction was. If she expressed curiousity or interest, invite her along and see her again. If, on the other hand, she expressed hostility, contempt or even neutrality, move on.

However, my brother has a disturbing tendency to take my suggestions literally. The next weekend, he saw a pretty girl at a night club, walked up to her and dropped an unusual opening line on her: “Would you like to go to church with me?” As she explained later, she thought that was a bizarre question and she had no particular interest in church, but she was perfectly up for going anywhere that this extremely handsome fellow might be interested in taking her. (Keep in mind, he can’t even show his drivers license to write a check without the girl behind the counter marveling at it.)

However, God works in mysterious ways, and that pretty girl in the nightclub is now the mother of my nephews and an active God-fearing Christian who I am pleased to call sister. Change is always possible, for Jesus Christ makes all things new. Do not, however, count on anything else changing an woman, especially not a woman who holds herself in active opposition to the source of love, truth and light.


Religion and the Left

Or, the lack thereof. I’m sure you’re as shocked as I am. Beat Bush Blog writes: The Rittenhouse Review is polling its readers about their religious beliefs. The results thus far suggest that those of us in the left blogosphere are a lot different from “Middle Americans” in this respect. At this writing, 59% of respondents (222 out of 376) categorize themselves as “Agnostic/Atheistic/Unitarian.” Various flavors of Christianity have a total of only 23% (88 votes).

I realize that online polls are not scientific, but this is still a striking result. The percentage of agnostics/atheists/Unitarians in the Rittenhouse poll is about four times the proportion in the general United States population. Of the 50,000 respondents in the 2001 American Religious Identification Survey, a total of 14.4% said they were “No Religion” (13.2%), Agnostic (0.5%), Atheist (0.4%), or “Unitarian/Universalist” (0.3%). This was an open-ended survey (i.e., respondents could answer however they wished, without being limited to specified categories of religions).

An online poll of Daily Kos readers as to whether they believed “in a higher power, i.e. God” reached similar results to the Rittenhouse poll. Only 40% (90 out of 223) answered “yes,” while 60% (133 out of 223) answered “No.”

Of course, most of these Godless lefties consider themselves highly moral paragons of virtue, although I’ve yet to meet one who can explain the strange correlations between their independently reasoned morality buffets and the Judeo-Christian morality of the culture in which they, their parents and their grandparents have been steeped.


It’s the Brits?

From Debka: MI6, the operational arm of British expansion, historically opted for the Middle East camp opposed to Israel and cultivated a special relationship with Yasser Arafat going back decades. Strictly speaking, Egyptian intelligence invented the Palestinian national leader and used his services between the 1960s and well into the 1990s. Even today, the Egyptian official assigned to keeping tabs on him is intelligence minister General Omar Suleiman. It is less well known that during those decades, British intelligence ran a covert operation to build him up as a world figure. London saw in him a vehicle for planting British influence deep inside the Arab-Muslim orbit (which is why he was never received in Islamic revolutionary Tehran) and an instrument for keeping Israeli intelligence in check and limiting its influence in Washington.

These ties were somewhat loosened after the 1993 Oslo peace accord, when he relocated from Tunis to Gaza and Ramallah. But they were never abandoned. The British have performed two key services for the Palestinian cause:

A. They sponsored the concept of Palestinian statehood as a means of reducing the Jewish state to what London considered its natural dimensions, sitting behind Arafat’s shoulder and lobbying the international case for a Palestinian state year after year until it was taken up by President Bush. Few Israelis are aware of the pivotal role parts of MI6 through the British Foreign Office played over the years in developing and shaping Palestinian diplomatic and PR strategy, helping to make the Palestinian cause far more resonant internationally than the Israeli case – even when Arafat openly espoused and practiced terrorism.

B. They instigated the first Palestinian uprising against Israel in 1987; it was not provoked by Arafat then still in Tunis or even the PLO leadership, but MI6 agents operating in the Rafah refugee camp of the southern Gaza Strip. The trigger was a road accident in which an Israeli army truck ran over a group of Palestinian children. The local protest raised spread quickly and was presented opportunistically to the media as a “popular uprising.”

I have no idea if this is true or not, except that Arafat is an Egyptian and the nephew of the Nazi-loving Grand Mufti of Jerusalem. I found it interesting in that it illustrates the point that the public very seldom has an accurate picture of what is going on behind closed doors. Whatever the truth may be about various geopolitical situations, it almost certainly isn’t what is being discussed openly in the newspapers every day.


Salon declares VD Day!

So, women are being encouraged to vote their genitalia this election. I hope my pro-suffragist critics will be conscientious about informing Eve Ensler that there’s no need for her latest project, since they’ve done such a wonderful job of demonstrating how women voting has no effect on anything whatsoever.


Sound familiar

“The convention whereby the dollar is given a transcendent value as an international currency no longer rests on its initial base… The fact that many states accept dollars in order to make up for the deficits of the American balance of payments has enabled the US to be indebted to foreign countries free of charge. Indeed, what they owe those countries, they pay in dollars that they themselves issue as they wish…. This unilateral facility attributed to America has helped spread the idea that the dollar is an impartial, international means of exchange, whereas it is a means of credit appropriated to one state.”

Charles De Gaulle, 1965. I wonder how much longer we’ll be able to get away with it, considering that the Euro has now surpassed the Dollar in its percentage of internationally purchased bonds? It doesn’t do you much good to print more of what nobody wants.


The evils of the American Medical Association

The American Medical Association (AMA) was founded in 1847 around two propositions: one, all doctors should have a “suitable education” and two, a “uniform elevated standard of requirements for the degree of M.D. should be adopted by all medical schools in the U.S.” [1] In the days of its founding AMA was much more open–at its conferences and in its publications–about its real goal: building a government-enforced monopoly for the purpose of dramatically increasing physician incomes. It eventually succeeded, becoming the most formidable labor union on the face of the earth.

AMA created its Council on Medical Education in 1904 with the goal of shutting down more than half of all medical schools in existence. (This is the Council having its 100th anniversary celebrated in Chicago this weekend.) In six years the Council managed to close down 35 schools and its secretary N.P. Colwell engineered what came to be known as the Flexner Report of 1910. The Report was supposedly written by Abraham Flexner, the former owner of a bankrupt prep school who was neither a doctor nor a recognized authority on medical education. Years later Flexner admitted that he knew little about medicine or how to differentiate between different qualities of medical education. Regardless, state medical boards used the Report as a basis for closing 25 medical schools in three years and reducing the number of students by 50% at remaining schools.

Many people, even otherwise sensible conservatives, wrongly believe that having strict standards imposed by the state is a desirable thing. They are appalled by the notion that just anyone be permitted to practice medicine, and yet, the history of the AMA proves beyond any shadow of a doubt that it has nothing to do with the quality of healthcare and everything to do with protecting its members incomes.

AMA certification is fine. Private organizations should exist to identify those practitioners who meet certain standards. But putting the force of the law behind the trade union will help ultimately destroy quality health care in America as well as doctors’ incomes, as the state is compelled to get involved to reduce the cost of what, as is inevitable in the case of an artificially limited supply, has risen.

As Dale Steinrich points out, this is no different than if the government decided that no one should drive a lower quality car than a Lexus. The price of cars would rise, many people would be forced to go without, and the government would then step in to force Lexus to provide cars to those who can’t afford them. Much better to have a range of health cares available, distinguished by private organizations, so that those unable to afford the best health care would still have access to what they could afford.

As Canada, the Netherlands, the UK and the Soviet Union have proved, equal health care means nothing more than awful health care for everyone. There’s a reason they call it the LOWEST common denominator, after all.


Mailvox: On Marriage

Gypsy asks: Does anyone out there feel that marriage is worth it?

A marriage to the right person is worth it. A marriage to the wrong person is not. How does one decide who the right person is? Aye, there’s the rub.

This is not to say that the question is impossible to determine, only that it requires a certain amount of analytical detachment about the relationship that is difficult for most people. Some of the more important factors for a man to consider, in my opinion, are as follows:

1. Is she a woman of genuine faith? A woman who seriously believes that marriage is a sacrament, be she Christian, Jew or Muslim, will have a very different view of the commitment and the institution than a secular or casually religious woman. As a Christian, I would not consider marrying a non-Christian woman for a moment. For the irreligious men, I see no purpose in marrying whatsoever – why put yourself at serious risk for a sacrament in which you do not believe? If you’re doing it simply because she demands it, you’re starting the relationship off down two touchdowns already.

2. Does she accept the notion of personal responsibility? A woman who is constantly blaming others for her problems in life will soon begin to see her husband as the source of all her problems. These women always blame whoever they are around the most instead of themselves – if she’s constantly complaining about her coworkers or her family, don’t even continue to date her. If you do, you’ll soon find her bitching about you.

3. Are you comfortable with her? Space Bunny got a little annoyed with me when I once compared her to an old shoe, until she realized that I refuse to give up my old shoes until the soles have been replaced three times, they have holes everywhere and at least one is missing laces altogether. And even then, she has to throw them out over my protests. If the two of you can’t contentedly spend several hours in the same room together without talking or otherwise interacting, you may not be comfortable enough with one another.

4. Can she entertain herself? Men need their downtime. This becomes problematic if she sees your free time as a violation of her time with you. Space Bunny doesn’t want to see or talk to me before 10 AM and she always requires two hours alone in the evening. I am delighted to provide her with that time… it should be obvious when I get much of my writing done. The time we spend together is then mutually enjoyed, even if it involves watching a ridiculous chick show on E! or a diatribe about Greenspan’s latest idiocy.

5. Does she genuinely put the interests of others first? I love a beautiful, self-centered drama queen as much or more than the next guy, but I would NEVER want to marry one. They’re fun to watch… from a distance. Keep your distance.

6. Do your friends and family think she’s good for you? All of my friends were very pro-Space Bunny, even the ones who didn’t have much use for her personally. My mother shouted “I got my girl!” and pumped her fists when we told my parents we were getting married. Those around you are not blinded by the rose-tinted lenses of infatuation and will often have a better read on her true personality than you do. If you find yourself defending her by saying things like “oh, but you just don’t know her” you are flirting with long-term trouble.

7. Does she attempt to control you? This tendency will only get worse with marriage, so any sign of this in a dating relationship is a red flag. Women have a strong maternal instinct and have a hard time grasping that men loathe being mothered; can she back off when you need her to?

8. Does she treat you with respect, in public and in private? If she does, this is an excellent sign. If she’s always putting you down, just “giving you a hard time”, “keeping you in your place” “just in fun”, find someone else. Marriage is not a buddy cop movie.

9. Are you in agreement in the larger issues? If she wants kids and you don’t, forget it. If she wants to keep up with the Joneses and you want to save for the future, there is a seed of much future conflict already embedded in the relationship.

10. Finally, do you know her? Really, truly know her? Do you know why she overreacts to stupid little things, why she wrinkles her lip in contempt at the TV screen, and why her favorite movies – appalling though they might be – appeal to her? Do you know what she hopes her future will hold, even if she can’t articulate it? It’s not always about a mansion on the sea, it can be something so mundane that the mere knowledge that was her dream will devastate you.

Marriage and family are definitely good things. But they are important things, and not to be entered into lightly. If you are so fortunate as to find the right woman, don’t let shallow concerns get in the way, pursue her and see it through. If neither you nor those close to you have any serious doubts, it is likely the right decision.


Bring the noise

One CV posts elsewhere: An increaase in the divorce rate some fifty-odd years later? Had they predicted a drop in the divorce rate they would have been correct as well. Just a matter of waiting for the correct moment in history to holler “aha!” Look, you are being deeply dishonest; you must know that. Why are you doing this?

This is so deeply stupid as to approach handicapable. The American divorce rate has declined since it peaked in 1979-1981 at 5.3/1000, but even at its lower rate of 4.0, it is still more than five times as high as it was in 1900, at 0.7, when the predictions of increased divorce due to women’s suffrage were being made. So, no, they would not have been correct to predict a drop in the divorce rate.

Now, how to explain this mysterious drop in the number of divorces since 1980? That’s not difficult either. The marriage rate was 10.6/1000 in 1980. Since then, many men have figured out that it doesn’t make much sense to take the risk of marrying the wrong woman and many women have decided that they need a man like a fish needs a bicycle, as the marriage rate has dropped 37 percent, to 7.8/1000. This is also 16 percent lower than the 9.3 marriage rate in 1900.

I’m not anyone’s master, but CV is my bitch.


Umberto Eco on political correctness

This article, entitled La pistola dell’Ostrega, appeared on 11 June 2004 in L’Espresso:

Political
Correctness is a true and proper movement born in the American
universities of liberal and radical inspiration, therefore of the Left,
with an eye towards acknowledging multiculturalism and reducing some of
the ingrained linguistic vices that established lines of discrimination
confronting various minorities. And therefore they began to say “blacks”
and later “Afro Americans” instead of “negroes”, and “gay” instead of
the thousands of other notorious appellations reserved for disparaging
homosexuals.

Naturally, this campaign for the
purification of the language has produced a true fundamentalism, which
has led to the notable case in which some feminists proposed to no
longer say “history” since it begins with the pronoun “his”, as they
thought this meant that the story was “his”, but instead to say
“herstory” – her story – obviously ignoring the Greco-Latin etymology
which has no gender implications.

However, the tendency
has assumed also neoconservative, or frankly, reactionary aspects. If
you decide to no longer call people in wheelchairs handicapped or even
disabled, but “differently abled” and after do not construct access
ramps in public places, it is evident that you have hypocritically
removed the word but not the problem. And the same is true if you
substitute saying “indefinitely unoccupied” for fired or “in a program
of transition to change careers” for dismissed. Who knows why a banker
isn’t ashamed of his title and doesn’t insist on being called an
operator in the field of savings. If it’s not working, changing the name
won’t fix it.

On these and an infinity of other
problems, Edoardo Crisafulli amuses in his book “The Politically Correct
and Linguistic Liberty”, which strips naked all these contradictions.
He takes on both sides, pro and con, and is always very entertaining.
Reading it, however, I came to reflect on the curious case of our
country. While Political Correctness exploded elsewhere, in our case it
was diffused and instead we are always developing more and more
Political Incorrectness. If, at one time, one would read a newspaper and
a politician would say: “As a politics of convergence is emerging, one
would prefer an asymptotic choice that eliminated single points of
intersection”; today he prefers to say: “Dialogue? To Hell with that
dirty son of a bitch!”

It is true that at one time in
old Communist circles they used to label the adversary as “horseflies”
and in speaking during a fracas, they might have chosen to use a lexicon
more incontinent than that of a longshoreman, but that was in a time
when there were no limits to what one could say – it was accepted as an
affectation – as was once the case in the gentlemen’s clubs of venerated
memory – where the gentlemen were not verbally inhibited. Today,
instead, the technique of an insult is televised, a sign of unconcious
faith in the valor of democracy.

It probably began with
Bossi(2), in which his manly hardness obviously alludes to the softness
of other people, and the appellation of “Berluskaz(3)” was unmistakable
but the thing spread widely. Stefano Bartezzaghi, writing under the
name Venerdi di Repubblica, cites the play of insults today in
circulation, but in good fun, all things considered

Therefore,
I too must contribute to the sweetness of Politically Incorrect
Italian, and as I have consulted a series of dictionaries and dialects,
permit me to suggest some polite and good-natured expressions with which
to insult your enemy, graceful words: pistola dell’ostrega, papaciugo,
imbolsito, crapapelata, piffero, marocchino, pivellone, ciulandario,
morlacco, badalucco, pischimpirola…[long, long list of like insults
removed for the sake of brevity].

(1) Ostrega can’t
be found in most dictionaries. I thought he was playing off the term
“strega” witch or “ostrica” oyster. This led me to wonder if there
wasn’t some deeper profundity there, but Vittorio emails to explain:
“ostrega” is an old exclamation in Venetian dialect. It may be a
euphimism for “ostia!”

(2) Vittorio also adds: in the
1980’s the Northern League, led by Umberto Bossi, had a celebrated
slogan “The League is the one that is hard” used against PC. That’s
where “celodurismo” comes from. I don’t know about “celoflocismo”. My
undestanding is that Eco is implying overtones of hardness and softness
as they relate to male tumescence. Alessandro also writes to explain:
Celodurismo is a neologism in Italian politics derived from the
(in)famous phrase by Umberto Bossi: “ce l’ho duro” meaning “I got an
hard-on and I can keep it up for hours!”, so that celodurismo means a
rough and boasting attitude which is typical of Umberto Bossi and his
mates of the Lega Nord political party. Actually, I never heard of
celoflocismo, but it surely derives from “ce l’ho floscio” which is
quite the contrary of “ce l’ho duro” so that celoflocismo means the
contrary of celodurismo.

(3) “Berluskaz” is likely a
combination of “Berlusconi” and “catzo”, saying that Silvio Berlusconi,
the Prime Minister and owner of AC Milan, is a motherf—–. Well, they
won the Scudetto this year, so deal.