Scott Adams illustrates the principle beautifully:
The biggest illusion of 2022 is that if your marriage doesn’t work it is because you picked the wrong person.
It doesn’t matter who you pick. Marriage is a pre-Internet, pre-equality system that no longer fits the modern world.
I don’t have a better idea.
The one thing, the only thing, that Scott Adams knows is that no matter what happens, it’s not his fault. The Gamma lives a life entirely free of self-accountability, which is why he is entirely incapable of learning from his not-mistakes.