It’s ironic that it takes a man from the East to inform men of the West how they have gone awry:
The truth is, a real man doesn’t care what any woman thinks of him. He doesn’t care what anyone thinks of him: he answers solely to his spirit.
Real men don’t pretend or even try to understand women. They simply love them for being the mysterious, capricious creatures that they are. And they don’t take them too seriously, either. They know the vicissitudes of the female mind, its constant insecurities and the fluctuations in mood.
Rather than pander to them, they simply watch them drift by like so many clouds on the horizon.
The whole article is interesting, even if he puts a little more emphasis on sexual dominance than I deem fitting. While he is clearly somewhat of a cad, the truth is that cads understand women much better than nice guys, which is why they can dominate them so easily. In any event, the section quoted is the most important part. Women can no more define masculinity than men can define femininity. Women are manipulators, so they’ll never shy away from saying stupid things like: “I think doing the laundry is sexy!”
The fact that the guy will figure out that she’s full of it the first time he does the laundry and she does not exhibit the customary physical reactions nor does she come through on the implied promise tends to escape them. But then, logic and accountability are not strong points for the average woman.
One must always give more weight to what any individual does than what he says. But it’s particularly important with women, who seldom put much thought into what they’re going to say before they say it. I can’t tell you how many men I know have dwelled for weeks on something mentioned in passing by a woman with whom they’re involved, meanwhile, she doesn’t even remember saying it.
It’s nice when a woman approves of you. But there will always be times when her female grasp of the situation will be fundamentally at odds with a man’s. It’s at those times that your true measure will be taken.