Single career women theorize as to why men aren’t lining up to date them:
The only men who ever approach me for dates are in their fifties. Maybe it is because they have more confidence and security in themselves and so don’t feel threatened by a woman who has made a success of herself. Men my age never talk to me once they’ve found out what I do. Sometimes, they physically take a step back. I think they assume I am focused purely on my career….
I sometimes wonder if I would be happier if I had chosen a simpler path, but the only thing I have wanted to do is practise law. It can be quite tough, though. I am different in the office to how I am at home. At work, I am the only woman on my team, so I have to be hard-nosed and quite harsh. At weekends, I over-compensate by being really girly, because I don’t want any friends – or potential boyfriends – to think I’m an iron-knickered harridan.
In other words, you’re a bitch, but you pretend not to be when it suits you. Obviously, no man could possibly be intelligent enough to figure out that sooner or later, you’re going to be directing that hard-nosed harshness at him if he’s dumb enough to date you.
Professional women are so clueless when it comes to men that one wonders how they manage to remember to breathe long enough to finish those all-important Powerpoint shows. A few basic pointers:
1. No man has ever been impressed by a woman’s occupation, unless it is stripper, model or professional cheerleader for his favorite team. Honorable mention for aerobics/yoga instructor or nanny.
2. Few men are impressed by women’s salaries. They know perfectly well that most women will quit paid employment the moment they feel they can. A woman’s salary only matters to a man who doesn’t want to support a non-employed wife or have kids.
3. Men with their own careers generally don’t want wives with careers if they want a family. They’re looking for a wife and mother to their children, not a co-husband. Men who don’t have careers are much more open to the possibility, but then, no matter how much money a woman makes, she has no interest in men who makes less than she does. As Spacebunny points out, most women consider her own income to be “her money” while that earned by the man is “our money”. There are exceptions, of course, but this is the general rule.
4. The mere fact of having a career means you are too focused on it in the eyes of most professional men. They know perfectly well what it means since they work with women like you every day, furthermore, they also know that few professional women have any sense of proportion or perspective. You made a choice, now deal with it. Buy a cat… or five, and stock up on Duracell.
5. Men aren’t intimidated by you, your intelligence, your education or your pay packet. They are, however, intimidated by the divorce courts. They are extremely disinclined to dally with the sort of women who show any inclination towards depending upon them.