David Brooks writes a surprisingly thoughtful article on women, work and children, published by THE NEW YORK TIMES, of all places:
Over the past 30 years, the fraction of women over 40 who have no children has nearly doubled, to about a fifth. According to the Gallup Organization, 70 percent of these women regret that they have no kids….
Why? For some, it’s a question of never finding the right person to have kids with. Others thought they’d found the right mates, but the relationships didn’t work out. Others became occupied with careers, and the child-rearing part of their lives never got put together. But there is also one big problem that stretches across these possibilities: Women now have more choices over what kind of lives they want to lead, but they do not have more choices over how they want to sequence their lives.
For example, consider a common life sequence for an educated woman. She grows up and goes to college. Perhaps she goes to graduate school. Then, during her most fertile years, when she has the most energy for child-rearing, she gets a job. Then, sometime after age 30, she marries. Then, in her mid-30’s, when she has acquired the maturity and character to make intelligent career choices, she takes time off to raise her kids. Several years hence, she seeks to re-enter the labor force. She may or may not be still interested in the field she was trained for (two decades earlier). Nonetheless, she finds a job, works for 15 years or so, then spends her final 20 years in retirement.
This is not necessarily the sequence she would choose if she were starting from scratch. For example, it might make more sense to go to college, make a greater effort to marry early and have children. Then, if she, rather than her spouse, wants to stay home, she could raise children from age 25 to 35. Then at 35 (now that she knows herself better) she could select a flexible graduate program specifically designed for parents. Then she could work in one uninterrupted stint from, say, 40 to 70.
Of course, this being the New York Times, the solution Brooks recommends involves government management. Because if we spend X trillions on retirees, we can certainly spend Y trillions on young families etc etc. Ah well, it’s still a thought-provoking concept he has put on the table.