Mailvox: Anger and the Answer

MH has a few thoughts about angry women:

In a perfect world, women would respect their men and their men would love them back. This is as we have been commanded to do. Unfortunately men forget the love part or are unable to love their women and women have forgotten the respect part. This becomes a vicious cycle.

After reading “Wild at Heart” and “Captivating” by David Eldredge (I think that’s the authors name) and “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerich, my whole outlook on men, women and how we interact with each other has changed. A little sincere respect goes a long way with my husband. We watch, horrified, as his mother and stepfather live unhappily caught in that vicious cycle. His younger sister is afraid to marry because she does not want to have a marriage like her parents. My parents had a similar marriage.

Feminism has ruined everything for women. We are now responsible for pregnancy alone, it’s our fault if we become pregnant because we did not use birth control or more likely it failed. Men become angry if we don’t abort. They become angry if they are forced to support a child out of wedlock. The child is left without a strong father image and many times the cycle repeats in the next generation.

Girls today are looking for the male attention they lacked in childhood, they throw themselves at boys, one can hardly blame them for taking them up on the offer. Boys,having no responsible adult male role model, have no clue how to act around women. Many of them have no direction or motivation. Why should they? Many years ago, boys had to show they were responsible and could support a women if they wanted to get married. They could get sex from a whore but that’s not who they would want to raise their children, and most men at least wanted a boy child to carry on their name. Now there is no need for that when they can get whatever they want for free with no consequences except VD which they never think about until it’s too late.

Women finally settle for someone they think will make them happy but with all the baggage and no God in their lives, most of the time their relationship is doomed. They blame the men, but it’s much more complicated than that.

I guess I am angry, but not with my husband or men in general, but the results of feminism, which has created unrealistic expectations of both women and men. We are different and God meant it to be that way, so that we would complement each other.

After the fall, God said to Eve “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you”. (Gen:3,16) In other words, women are forever longing for a deep relationship that includes talking with us. Men hate to talk but will do it when you give them respect. Only with Jesus in our marriage can we somewhat overcome this curse.

I disagree, actually. There will be genuine Christians with unhappy marriages, pagans with lasting and positive life-commitments and happy Hindus with multiple happy housewives. (Okay, I was just going with the alliteration on that last one, I don’t actually know if any Hindu sects are particularly prone to polygamy.)

There’s no question that submitting to Biblical principles is one of the most effective paths towards marital happiness. But marital happiness is not salvation and therefore Jesus Christ is not the only way to it. But for those who such lack happiness and seek it, it’s certainly worth a try.