I marvel at the fact that people find it so difficult to grasp that equality not only does not exist, it cannot exist. But I suppose one must admit that this writer’s heart is in the right place, especially considering that she’s a feminist:
Bob and Jane are a middle class couple. They have two children. They get an amicable divorce. There is a custody hearing. Both of them are good parents. Both of them want to be the primary custody holder. Who gets the children? Seriously, every single time, unless Jane lights up a crack pipe in the courtroom she will get physical custody. Bob is expected by society to be happy with every other weekend and two weeks in the summer. Don’t believe me? What would you think if you heard that a woman only saw her children every other weekend and a few holidays? I PROMISE you would think, “What did she do to lose her kids?” But, with men, that’s just the way it goes, right?
The mythic concept of quality aside, current “family court” system is insane by any rational measure. Of course, everyone is deeply shocked when boys in these situations grow up to believe all women are sluts and whores and the girls are on the pole at eighteen. There are few things so easily predictable as societal failure, and yet most people not only refuse to see it developing, but remarkably, continue to subscribe to the idea of ongoing social progress.